Ok so I’m now going to attempt to answer the controversial question,
“why do men cheat?”.
Maybe it’s not a such
a controversial question but it is a question and I’m going to do my best to
try to answer it.
To start with cheating is something that kind of comes naturally
to most people and that includes both men and women. However cheating for a man
has something of his ego involved in it. Many men who cheat believe that it’s
their right to cheat as men. Most men believe that it’s less acceptable for a
woman to cheat than it is for a man to and this is particularly true in Africa.
In African societies where men are still seen as being the head of the home
regardless of whether or not he is the major or sole provider for the family,
cheating by a woman is seen as something of an abomination. I am not familiar
with Middle Eastern cultures but I would guess that a similar view is held by Middle
Eastern men but then again I might be wrong.
African men believe that women are under their care so are
expected to be faithful to their men. The fact that they provide for their
women makes it ok for them to see and sleep with other women because they are
the ones who are the care givers - economically speaking that is.
Now enough of the small talk and back to our subject at
hand, why do men cheat? I will outline some of the reasons why men tend to
cheat on their women.
1.
Men cheat because they are men and they want to
cheat
Indeed men do cheat because they are men but that doesn’t mean
it is right or that every single man on the planet cheats on their partner. Some men insist on staying faithful to their
partner regardless of what the situation on ground might be while others don’t even
need a reason to cheat but just do.
The idea of conquest has always been an exciting and
attractive one to most men. Lots of men just want to conquer new women and bed
them. They want to taste new waters, conquer new territories, and pluck fresh
new cherries from their tree of sexual conquests. Like I said, this doesn’t make
it right but some men just don’t seem to have a place for self control when it
comes to women and sex. Such men will chase after anything in skirts that
catches their fancy provided she meets his criteria. For some men the criterion
is big boobs, for others it’s a big behind. Yet for some others, there are no criteria
and anything goes.
If you’re a woman and you find yourself involved with one of
such men then don’t waste your time trying to fix him just run; except of
course if you don’t mind sharing your man with several women.
2.
Men cheat because their wives that don’t care
Sadly some men marry the wrong woman and they end up
cheating because of that. Some men marry women who don’t love them because these
women are beautiful or physically engaging. These women on their own part agree to marry these
men even though they are not in love with these men. At the end of the day they
are not capable of giving the men the affection and attention they desire. In
the long run such men end up looking outside the home for the affection they
need.
Some women are all about material things and may have felt
they cared about a man when they first met him but as soon as their man meets
with some hard times and becomes financially challenged they fall out of love
with him and stop caring about him or showing him any affection.
3.
Women make men cheat
In reality there will always be women who want to get the
other woman’s man. So it really depends on a man to make up his mind not to fall
for other women once he has a steady woman in his life. Some women go out of
their way to seduce men into having affairs with them. Often these men are men
of means of influence and they promise a life of luxury and opulence. Some men
start out with no desire to cheat on their partners but are pressured into
cheating by certain seductive women who are determined to have them.
I have heard stories of women who go to church services with
the sole purpose of seducing the pastor in charge. They wear skimpy clothes and
sit at strategeous advantageous positions in the congregation and do their best
to distract the pastor.
In other instances they set out to align themselves with
successful business men or famous figures in society. Such women do not stop
until they are forced to stop or until they find some other man of greater
interest to prey on.
There are lots of reasons why men cheat but regardless of
why men cheat we all know that no one likes being cheated on so please don’t cheat
on your partner.
