When to hold on and when to let go

Lots of times women have a hard time deciding whether or not a relationship is worth it. They often struggle with the signs that would help them decide whether or not to hang in there or to throw in the towel. If there’s one quality I have found with women it’s that of hanging in there. Women like to hold on to relationships once they are in them. Truth is I personally love this female quality. It’s great to know as a man that my woman won’t dump me and move on just because I did something stupid or slept with her best friend (actually some would leave for the latter reason). The only problem however is that in my opinion, most women can’t tell the difference between relationships with potential and relationships that are going nowhere. Below are a few considerations I feel women should take to heart when trying to decide whether or not to hold on or let go. 

1. Time: before you get into a relationship with a guy I believe a woman must have taken some time to decide if he’s her kind of guy. Once you get into one you also have to take some time to find out what really lies beneath the surface when it comes to your man. Is he of strong character, sincere, honest and reliable? Do five or more of every ten words he says a lie? If he can’t be trusted then you should as well move on. 

2. Abuse: if a man shows himself to be physically or emotionally abusive then you may now want to hang around him for the long haul. In fact the moment you notice this trait I would suggest you move on. Sadly most women grow up feeling they are designed to fixed things. That it’s their place to fix a relationship. Truth is I agree to a certain extent. Women are said to have more capacity when it comes to managing relationships. However more women need to learn to tell the difference between situations that require management and situations that require that you run for your life. If he leaves his dirty socks lying all over the house that’s a situation that can be managed. If on the other hand he hits you or threatens your life every chance he gets then you should run. 

 3. Substance abuse: an unstable mind is a danger to those in its presence. It’s not a good idea to hang around someone who abuses substance because they can be pretty unpredictable. Besides the danger of violence that comes with substance abuse your finances will suffer. Persons who abuse substances tend to become addicted and when a person is addicted they will give away anything to get the next high. If he’s an alcoholic or on hard drugs then I think you should give taken that next step towards commitment a second thought.