He married a witch

Mr Obikey married a witch; at least that’s what he told me. He told me the reason he had been out of work for the past fifteen years was because his wife had bewitched him. He also told me she was the reason he had lost his job.
Mr. Obikey's wife, Mary was a lecturer at the university and was a quiet straight forward pious Christian woman who wanted nothing more than to raise her kids as well as she could, read her bible and attend mid week service in Church.
To me she seemed like a peaceful woman who just wanted to live her life and serve her God. To Mr Obikey, she was a witch and the source of all his misfortune. 
Mary had remained married to her husband Ramus (Mr. Obikey) even though he had been out of work for over twelve years. She had stayed faithful to him despite the fact that he had failed to support her and the kids as a father and husband should.
All the time Mr. Obikey had been without work his wife Mrs. Obikey had dutifully paid the school fees or their five kids and had also paid the house rent when it was due; responsibilities that Mr. Obikey had shameful neglected to take up himself neither did he show gratitude to his wife over the years as she stood in for him.
At first I wasn’t sure what to think but then as more and more information became available to me I started to see a clearer picture. I found out that Mr. Obikey had always been bad with money and that he had often liquidated all the business he had started, either on his own or in partnership with his wife.
I heard stories of how Mr. obikey would take 50,000 in cash to the bank from sales but would only be able to remit 35,000 of the money when it was time to restock a particular business he started with his wife. When his wife Mary asked him why the cash in hand was now 35,000 rather than 50,000 he would tell his wife that it was as a result of bank charges.
Mr. Obikey has been quoted as saying that he preferred to use his last 1000 naira to buy fried chicken for a single meal rather than share it and spread it well over three meals. He preferred this because he was of the opinion that today was all that mattered. As such he saw no sense in planning for tomorrow; as far as he was concerned, tomorrow would take care of itself.
Clearly Mr. Obikey was bad with money and had not learnt the importance of saving, budgeting,  planning and money management. He did not feel that his financial problems were somehow tied to his inability to control spending and to manage money effectively.
As far as he was concerned, all his money and life woes were as a result of his witch of a wife. He even said that she had succeeded in stealing six of his seven spiritual stars of glory and fortune leaving him with only one star of good fortune or good luck.
I am sure that as decent and well behaved as Mrs. Obikey is, she isn’t perfect. That would imply that she has her short comings and surely her faults too.  However, from all the information I gathered from Mr. Obikey about the situation on ground, the reason why he has no money is not because his wife is a witch but because he is a thrifty spender and has refused to take responsibility for his actions and his future. Of course Mr. Obikey doesn’t see it that way.
Today Mr. and Mrs. Obikey are still married but they are not happily so. They live like strangers in the same house regretting their marriage and wishing they were with some other person.
Are you in a relationship with a man who refuses to take responsibility for his actions? Do you feel like it’s a little thing that doesn’t matter and will go away with time? If you are a lady, would you pray to be married to a man like Mr. Obikey?
If your answer to my last question is ‘no’ then make sure that the person you are dating or thinking of marrying is a responsible man or woman who is capable of taking responsibility and carrying out their own end of the bargain in a relationship. Don’t marry someone who never accepts responsibility for their mistakes but rather blames their partner for everything that’s gone wrong in their life.If you go ahead and do so, you will certainly have yourself to blame.