Is he Really the man for you?

Some years back I had some major issues with my girlfriend and at my instance we agreed to see a counselor together.

As it turned out we saw the counselor separately in two private sessions and then finally together as a couple in a third session.

The counselor was of the opinion that we could work things out between us but she was convinced that this was only possible if we were both committed to making the relationship work.

Then she went on to ask us to carry out a simple but powerful mental exercise.  She asked us to close our eyes for a few minutes and picture ourselves on our wedding day standing before the officiating priest or pastor and before the congregation ready to say our vows.

She asked us to picture how we felt in that scenario. Her point was that if we felt happy, and relaxed or excited in our minds as we pictured that scene then it was a good sign for us to proceed toward marriage with that person.

On the other hand if we saw ourselves standing there and feeling uncertain, scared, panicky or insecure, then that was serving as a warning sign for us to completely discontinue the relationship or to pause for a moment.

Take some time now to close your eyes and imagine yourself getting married to your present date or partner. Do you feel happy and secure in that moment or do you feel scared like you're walking into a trap. Tell me; is he or she really the right one for you?