Today I will
be sharing a few tips on being more desirable to men from my book titled, “21
qualities of highly attractive women”. Hope you enjoy them.
1. …they possess pleasing personalities.
Women who attract more than their fair share of male attention
when it comes to the issue of marriage are generally women who are seen as
possessing pleasing personalities.
In my book “Dating Rules” one of the rules I outlined was, “Be
easy to be with”. One of the characteristics of people who have pleasing
personalities is that they are easy to be with.
Learn to be friendly and willing to help. You don’t necessarily have
to go out of your way unless it’s really important but as much as possible work
toward leaving a pleasant effect on others. Learn to say ‘please’ and ‘thank you’.
‘Please’ when you ask for something or when you want some help (even if it’s
your right or due) and ‘thank you’ when you get it.
You may think it’s totally unnecessary and you probably won’t get
an award for doing so but its just plain good manners and it sets you apart
from the crowd as one who is well groomed and cultured.
Practice saying ‘thank you’ at every opportunity you get. Say ‘thank
you’ to the cab man for the ride when you pay him. You don’t have to because
he’s getting paid for his services but it just portrays you as a cultured, high
class, decent and well brought up lady.
Don’t be a trouble maker looking for every opportunity to make
trouble. Yes trouble does come sometimes even when we are not intentionally
looking for it but until such times, do your best to keep the peace; leave the
drama alone.
Don’t be the kind of woman who will make trouble and pick fights
with the neighbors before her husband comes back from work.
Be a person with a pleasing personality. Be a peace maker, be
someone who is interested in the good of others as well as in her own good.
Show kindness to others. Show kindness to your friends, your
neighbors, you siblings, your parents, and your colleagues at work. Informed
people don’t judge you by how you treat them alone. On the contrary they access
you and come to a conclusion of the sort of person they believe you are based
on how you treat others as well.
Coming back to being easy to be with, don’t nag unnecessarily. If
possible, don’t nag at all. Learn to appreciate the little gifts of life.
Develop an attitude of gratitude toward life and toward your man. Don’t make
unnecessary and unreasonable demands. Learn to put your suggestions across to
your man as a suggestion and not as a command or as an ultimatum unless and
unless it is absolutely necessary and this should happen very rarely if you are
indeed with the right man for you.
If your man gets you a gold ring when you were expecting diamonds,
do your best to be appreciative of his efforts to please you. Later on and at a
much appropriate date when you know he is capable of getting you the diamonds you
want, you could just make a fleeting comment of how much you love diamonds. You
don’t have to ask or demand for them. If he is your man and he loves you he
will get them for you provided he can afford them.
Men love it when you suggest things to them subtly not demand and
insist that they do something for you as a condition for you to love them or
treat them right.
When you do this (expect to get something material before you
treat your man right) he starts to see your love or affection for him as having
a price tag on it and this often leads him seeing you as being for sale.
If you have to take the bus for a week because his car is bad and
at the mechanic’s don’t make his life anymore miserable by complaining each
time you both go out without the car. Don’t continuously complain of how much
you hate going out in public transport. Be a sport. Learn to adapt.
The truth is that women who are capable of adapting to different
situations are rare and highly sought after by serious minded men looking for a
lady to settle down with in marriage.
Learn to be a sport, learn to adapt to various circumstances and
situations in life. The more adaptable or flexible you are with life’s
challenges the more impressive you will be to your man. Every man wants a woman
who will stand by him no matter what comes his way.
2. they possess a healthy sense
of humor
We all can’t be the same and we all may not be able to see the
funny side of life with the same intensity but having or developing a good
sense of humor does come in handy.
Having the capacity to take an otherwise threatening or worrisome
experience and bringing out the lighter side of it has a way of diffusing tension
in situations. The capacity to see the funny side of life is a desirable one and
could easily take a load off the regular stress of life.
Being able to see the funny side of life can also be fun and lots
of times, a person’s wittiness or the lack of it is associated to an extent with
their IQ. In other words people who are better able to make jokes or laugh at
jokes are on some level perceived to be more intelligent.
It goes without saying that men find intelligent women attractive
so the more developed your sense of humor is the more it adds to your
attractiveness.
Generally persons with a well-developed sense of humor are persons
who are able to laugh at other peoples jokes and who are capable of creating
some funny situations or cracking some jokes themselves.
They do not necessarily have to be comedians. They just need to possess
the ability to appreciate the funny and lighter side of life. Like I often say,
moderation is always a good rule to go by here.
You want to be funny enough but you really don’t want to come
across as someone who’s completely incapable of having a serious minded
conversation with anyone so use your sense of humor sparingly.
If on the other hand, it happens that you appear to have a somewhat
overdeveloped sense of humor, then you may want to water things down a little
bit by being a bit more serious minded in your interactions with others.
Remember, moderation is a good rule to live by.
Being humorous is attractive and fun. Being too humorous is at
best irritating; except of course if you are a stand-up comedian by profession
and even then you need to watch it.
Men appreciate a woman who can laugh at their jokes and who can once
in a while come up with one of their own. The best expression of humor usually
has to do with taking something serious and seeing the funny side of it. You
don’t have to read books on comedy or memorize jokes to be humorous. The best
and easiest approach to humor is learning to see the funny side of everyday
life experiences and seeing the opportunity to crack a joke or create some
humor when faced with such opportunities..
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